There was a very important thing I forgot to mention with the last update. Yes – we managed to move out of a London flat to an actual house. But it came at a massive cost – MY freedom.
I thought that by escaping a real job and working for myself, I would get back so much freedom. I would be able to work whenever I wanted on whatever I wanted. Yes – I can do that. I would be able to see my now two little boys (yes the other one was a blue one) as much as I wanted, so I wouldn’t miss anything. Again, I’ve ticked that off. But the big compromise was that if we moved out of London, my fiancée’s parents would have to come with us.
I reluctantly agreed and feel even strongly against it now than I did at the time.
I’ve got no problems with the in-laws. They are fine. But because they’re not in a great financial situation, can’t drive and only one of them works (part-time at that) we kind of have to do a lot for them.
They’ve been taken out of the home they knew for over 30 years – the city they’ve known for decades more – and I get that, but it is a real burden. They’re just always there. There’s no space for ‘us’ time, meaning time with just me, my fiancée and the kids.
The house is big – we’ve even got a spare room – but the only way we can get away from the in-laws is if we stay in our room or literally leave the house. Even once we’ve put the kids to bed for the night, they’re still in the front room – just there. Me and my fiancée just want to be together and they don’t give us the chance to. And they seem oblivious to it.
I think the biggest issue is that they just don’t pull their weight in the way that we agreed. It was supposed to be that we took care of all the bills, and my fiancée’s parents would do all the food, cleaning and look after the kids on certain days so we could work. They do the food, haven’t hoovered since we got here, and will only ‘watch’ the kids when we’re also in the room.
So it’s really not working in the way it was supposed to.
We always said that it was going to be a temporary thing that they live with us, but that’s basically on the condition that we can build up a deposit for a home for them to live in, while we rent this out. So far because we haven’t been able to work nearly as far as we wanted to, we’re way behind on our schedule.
Send help!!!
